Books for HSPs

A truly good book teaches me better than to read it. I must soon lay it down, and commence living on its hint. What I began by reading, I must finish by acting. (Henry David Thoreau )

The selection of HSP books below are all available to buy via Please note that the links will not always show you the cheapest option to buy. So, it’s worth checking, if there are paperback or second hand copies available, if you would prefer that.

The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You by Dr.Elaine N. Aron – This is the first of the HSP books published about highly sensitive people by Elaine Aron. A must-read for anyone, who suspects that they have a more sensitive nervous system than the average person. It is not widely known yet, that 15-20% of people are born with a more finely tuned nervous system that brings with it it advantages (ability to notice subtle details, ability to think and process information deeply, high levels of empathy, flourish in positive environments) and disadvantages (can easily feel overstimulated and overwhelmed, can have very intense emotions, deeply hurt by negative environments). If this sounds familiar to you, you could be a highly sensitive person, who could learn a lot from this book about how your needs are different from the average person and what kind of life would suit your sensitive nature.

The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When the World Overwhelms Them by Dr.Elaine N. Aron – This is the most important HSP books about highly sensitive children. 15-20% of children are Highly Sensitive – and they are often labelled shy, introverted, fussy or a problem child. The real story is very different though and this intelligent, practical book provides parents with insights and information so they can understand High Sensitivity, and help their highly sensitive child thrive in the world. It is important for these children to be understood so they can be helped to avoid the common traps of shyness and withdrawal that many highly sensitive fall into as they develop.

The Highly Sensitive Parent: Be Brilliant in Your Role, Even When the World Overwhelms You by Dr.Elaine N. Aron – The Highly Sensitive Parent is not really a parenting book. It is written more for highly sensitive people who are parents to better respond and manage the demands of parenting as well as their own high sensitivity. In short, to become the best possible parent by reducing the overstimulation you are experiencing as an HSP and fitting in more self-care and down time. Highly sensitive parents are uniquely attuned to their children, think deeply about every issue affecting their kids, and have strong emotions, both positive and negative, in response to parenting. Because of all of this, they also find parenting far more stressful than parents who are not highly sensitive. The Highly Sensitive Parent is a unique book that offers these parents strategies for handling stressors, as well as relationship issues that arise especially for this group.

Understanding the Highly Sensitive Child: Seeing an Overwhelming World through Their Eyes by James Williams – You can understand better your highly sensitive child in an hour. A small book that is the perfect essential reading for busy parents that highlights all the important things you need to know about your highly sensitive child.

The Highly Sensitive Man by Tom Falkenstein – Cognitive behavioural psychotherapist Tom Falkenstein offers the first psychological guide that specifically addresses highly sensitive men and those who care about them, and explores the unique advantages and obstacles they face. Drawing from his training with pioneer in the field Dr. Elaine Aron, and his own ground-breaking work, Falkenstein incorporates the most up-to-date research on high sensitivity, how it relates to male identity, and provides one-of-a-kind advice and practical tools.

The Highly Sensitive Person in Love: Understanding and Managing Relationships When the World Overwhelms You by Dr.Elaine N. Aron – Based on Elaine N. Aron’s groundbreaking research on temperament and intimacy this book offers practical help for highly sensitive people seeking happier, healthier romantic relationships. Statistics show that 50 percent of what determines divorce is genetic temperament. And, if you are one of the 20 percent of people who are born highly sensitive, the risk of an unhappy relationship is especially high. Your finely tuned nervous system, which picks up on subtleties and reflects deeply, would be a romantic asset, if both you and your partner understood you better. But without that understanding, your sensitivity is likely to be making your close relationships painful and complicated. From low-stress fighting to sensitive sexuality, the book offers a wealth of practical advice on making the most of all personality combinationsand will help you discover a better way of living and loving.

Thrill: The High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Tracy Cooper – Are you an HSP and love novelty, spontaneity and adventures? This book is written for you and can make sense of this combination of two seemingly conflicting traits that often leave people perplexed about themselves. Understand better your needs as a highly sensitive person who is also a high sensation seeker and learn to create a balance that can be rather challenging to achieve. Still, if you get it right, you can have best of both worlds: the excitement of a courageously lived life full of excitement and the riches of deep inner reflection.

Psychotherapy and the Highly Sensitive Person – Improving Outcomes for That Minority of People Who Are the Majority of Clients by Dr.Elaine N. Aron – This is the book that every mental health professional  (psychiatrist, psychotherapist, clinical psychologist and counsellor) should read who supports clients to heal and grow. Highlighting what research can tell us about highly sensitive people and gives a solid professional understanding about working with highly sensitive clients, who represent over half of all therapy clients.

Highly Sensitive Person’s Survival Guide: Essential Skills for Living Well in an Overstimulating World by Ted Zeff – A book filled with innovative techniques for coping with the overstimulation and stress

Making Work Work for the Highly Sensitive Person by Barrie Jaeger – This book offers you proven strategies that help you make your sensitivity an asset in the workplace.

Thrive: The Highly Sensitive Person and Career by Dr.Tracy M. Cooper – The book presents important new research findings that can empower you to better understand HSPs relationship to their career

The Strong, Sensitive Boy by Ted Zeff – Highly sensitive boys tend to be creative, kind, and gentle, appreciating beauty and feeling love deeply. Therefore, it’s particularly challenging for sensitive boys to grow up in a culture where boys are taught to act tough, aggressive, and unemotional. In this groundbreaking book, psychologist Ted Zeff explores the unique challenges of sensitive boys, showing parents, educators, and mentors how to help sensitive boys grow into strong, happy, and confident men. Dr. Zeff offers practical advice on how to help your son increase his self-esteem and thrive in the family, at school, with friends, and in sports.

The Highly Sensitive Person’s Workbook: A Comprehensive Collection of Pre-tested Exercises Developed to Enhance the Lives of HSP’s by Dr.Elaine N. Aron – A collection of exercises and activities for both individuals and groups, this workbook will help you identify the HSP trait in yourself, nurture the new, positive self-image you deserve, and create a fuller, richer life. You will be able to: Identify your specific sensitivities with self-assessment tests; reframe past experiences in a more positive light; interpret dreams and relate them to your sensitivity; cope with overarousal through relaxation, breathing, and visualization techniques and describe your trait in a work interview or to an unsympathetic family member, new friend, doctor, or therapist.

The Emerging Sensitive: A Guide for Finding Your Place in the World by Maria Hill – An essential resource in supporting highly sensitive people in showing up more in the world.

The Power of Sensitivity by Ted Zeff  – Uplifting success stories from HSPs, who used information about their trait to turn their life around.

The Undervalued Self: Restore Your Love/Power Balance, Transform the Inner Voice That Holds You Back, and Find Your True Self-Worth by Dr.Elaine N. Aron Coloured by Dr Aron’s own innate sensitivity this book provides a practical guide for anyone seeking to improve their own feelings of self-worth and to look at how they relate to others in greater detail. This book would be a sound companion to anyone embarking on their own journey of self-discovery, whether or not they are in therapy themselves.

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain – Some insights and inspiration that might be helpful to those HSPs who are introverts.

Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life is Your Hidden Strength by Laurie Helgoe – An inspiring and useful self-help book for the 70% of HSPs who are also introverts.

Career Guide for Creative and Unconventional People by Carol Eikelberry – A helpful guide for anyone who feels they don’t fit or want the usual career pattern.

A Brief History of Everything by Ken Wilber – Perspective-changing, mind-broadening and accessible excursion into the history of consciousnessanda – a key entry level book to integral theory. Wilber helps us see the world as a whole and liberates us from narrow perspectives on the human adventure. This book makes a unique synthesis of philosophical and spiritual approaches, in which everything finds its right place and the whole looks utterly meaningful. I believe it holds keys to solving the problems mankind is faced with today and satisfies the HSPs need for deep processing and organising their knowledge.


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